Defining Moments – Moments of Impact
Yesterday I mentioned defining moments, the moments that shape who we are. I’ve been thinking about them a lot since I saw The Vow. Obsessed might be a good word for how I feel, actually. I’ve exhausted the subject in my journal, but instead of boring you with details, I’ll just say this: if I […]
Your Picture Gets Me Every Time
Last week I watched The Vow. Aside from being confused by the premise (isn’t every girl’s lifelong dream to wake up from a coma and discover she’s married to Channing Tatum?), it made me think. Briefly, Rachel McAdams’ character suffers a brain injury that wipes the last 6 years of her memory. She wakes up a […]
Pretty Hurts – Hark! Is That Progress On the Horizon?
When I planned my week on, “Pretty Hurts,” I had two videos I wanted to share today. Truth be told, after highlighting the negatives all week, I’ve grown a little weary of shaking my fist. Instead, I’ve decided to celebrate a success. Lena Dunham, creator and star of the show Girls, is on the cover […]
Pretty Hurts – The Part Men Play
I’m no man-hater. Most of my closest friends are men. I realize I sound like a racist who claims her best friend is black (I swear, he really is black). I’m just tired of hearing everyone say we ladies do this destructive shit to ourselves, and it’s our own fault for perpetuating the madness. I’m […]
Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby
Let me preface this piece with a statement: “feminist” and “sexual being” are not independent of one another. Feminist, as defined by Nigerian writer Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie: “A person who believes in the social, political, and economic equality of the sexes.” By this definition, all of us are (or should be) feminists. And sexual being […]
Pretty Hurts – Mamma Said, “You’re a Pretty Girl”
How old were you the first time you heard your mother say she needed to lose weight? For the life of me, I don’t remember. But by the time I was 9, the message was clear: my mom was fat. The ridiculous thing is she wasn’t fat at all. Come to think of it, she […]
Pretty Hurts – Perfection Is a Disease
Aerie (American Eagle’s lingerie brand) recently released a campaign called Aerie Real. They’ve chosen not to retouch or alter the pictures of the models for their spring collection.* Compare this photo, with this one (from a previous ad campaign) If you think the comparison is unfair because they’re different people, have a look at this […]
“Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could be any different.”
I hope you enjoyed my week-long series on forgiveness. I think I’ve said everything in my heart on the topic, so I’ll leave you with a video that really spoke to me. This was a definition I found I could work with, even through the shit storm. Cheers! The Definition of Forgiveness “Forgiveness is giving […]
Forgivenss Is Not a Constant State
I touched on this a bit in, “My Story,” but I’m going to elaborate a little here. When you’ve been emotionally wounded, it’s going to fuck with you. Some days are good, some are bad. On Tuesday, you may feel healed and whole, and experience waves of forgiveness washing over you. You may feel compassion […]
It’s My Anger, And I’ll Hold On If I Want To
No one has the right to tell you how to feel. When it comes to something as personal as your feelings, “should” is bullshit. There are some exceptions, because some of us get caught up wallowing, or doing other self-destructive crap for so long that we end up snuffing our spark. But if you are […]
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